Tuesday, October 17, 2017

#metoo

I usually don't "go deep" on this blog, but today I want to share my thoughts on this topic which I definitely feel is a very important one.

I'm sure most of you have seen this hashtag blowing up on social media for the past couple of days. I've been spending a lot of time thinking about what actually counts as sexual harassment or sexual assault, and how I have or haven't experienced it.

My initial thought when I first read about the hashtag and the idea behind it was "Yes, of course I've experienced it". I thought about all the times I've had an unwanted hand gripping my waist on the dance floor, or even worse - trying to reach down my pants. Or the times I've had a customer comment on my looks, as if it has anything to do with how I perform at work. This summer I had a man ask me to come up to his hotel room, and another one ask me to sit on his lap while he payed this bill. Those kind of comments are totally unacceptable and it is frankly disgusting behavior. Luckily, my real life experiences are pretty mild compared to other cases of sexual harassment or assault. It still doesn't mean that they are ok.

Which brings me to my second thought, which was "I can't post this". I contemplated for so long whether my experiences of sexual harassment were severe enough to actually matter. Unfortunately this is a thought process which is very much alive in victim blaming culture, and one of the reason why victims are afraid to speak up. And I guess this is the whole message of the hashtag: anyone, man or woman, who has experienced sexual assault, harassment or injustice shouldn't have to feel like they are an inconvenience. And that's one of the reasons I wanted to share my thoughts in this post.

(By this I don't mean that victims have to come out with their stories. My cousin shared a text on her page which I completely agree with: "Reminder that if a woman didn't post #MeToo, it doesn't mean she wasn't sexually assaulted or harassed. Survivors don't owe you their story")

I also want to say that I by no means think that all men behave this way, I don't think most men do (and obviously it doesn't just have to be men who harass and women who get harassed. The main point is that it shouldn't happen). I was discussing feminism with my mother the other day when my boyfriend jokingly said "Just don't start hating me". I have so many wonderful men in my life, like my boyfriend, my father, my brother and lots of men I know from school, or work, or who are friends who I know would never act like that. I also know that there is a difference between sexual harassment and for instance flirting. Because I've had hands gripping my waist, and they have been welcomed. I've gotten flirty comments and replied back in the same manner. And in these cases I've made it very clear that I too am interested. But when I've made it clear that I'm not interested and someone won't stop touching me, that's when there's a problem. Or when I'm working and someone makes an inappropriate comment where I can't help but smile and laugh it off because I'm supposed to act professional, that is an abuse of power. 

Anyways, hope you get a sense of how I'm trying to contribute to this conversation. And I do think it is important to highlight just how many women (and men) are affected by this problem. 



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Monday: A very ordinary Monday. School. Practice in the evening. Also been very into listening to podcasts, mostly when I'm cleaning or sitting on the bus on my way to and from training. "Shane and Friends" and "Not Too Deep with Grace Hellbig" are my current faves.

Tuesday: Britannica's & ESN's welcome sitz. Caught up with friends, met some new exchange students. Had a good time but left after the sitz.

Wednesday: Went to check out Hullut Päivät (translates to "The Crazy Days" because a lot of things are on sale which makes people go cray-cray. Didn't buy anything for myself (well, I bought food so I guess that counts?)


Thursday: Friends came over. Had a great time catching up with everybody ❤

Friday: Second game of the season. It was in Tampere (which is about 2 hours from Turku) and the game started at 20.15, which was a bit of an inconvenience. But we ended up winning 31-102 which totally made it worth it. Was back home just before midnight, super tired.



Saturday: Although our 3-year-anniversary was on Sunday, we agreed on the fact that it's more fun to go put on a Saturday. We had a table reservation at E.Ekblom, which is a restaurant just by the aura river. We've been there before, and really liked it. Plus you get a three course meal for a little over 30 euros, which is a really good deal. Had a really nice night!

Was really feeling my look (which resulted in 300 selfies which look almost exactly alike)


Can we just take a moment to appreciate Turku at night?


Sunday: The real date of our anniversary. Exchanged gifts in bed. I got a gift card to a hair salon which was great, because I very rarely go. André got a bathrobe which is perfect for fall as it keep getting colder and colder. We also made some brunch. The weather was perfect. The evening was spent at my parents house, just chilling. Got some great pictures with Maya.

Pancake master André


Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Revamped

It's officially October, which just happens to be one of my favorite months of the year, due to the fact that it's Halloween, most of the shows I watch are back on the air AND it's mine and Andre´s anniversary!

Our apartment has also been revamped a bit, with a new cover for our couch and a hand-me-down chest of drawers which used to be my grandma's. I'm absolutely in love with the drawer and I think overall the look with the lighter couch is much better! Still looking for something to put up on the wall behind the couch though. Any suggestions?


Since my grandma and her boyfriend (I always feel weird saying boyfriend, it's something you would say about a teenager, not a grown woman. :D Although my grandma is born on leap year which technically would make her a young adult... I guess we'll go with boyfriend after all!) were in town they stopped by our place on Saturday for some dinner prepared by me as well as some delicious apple pie made by my grandma! 


oh GUYS! I almost forgot to tell you... We WON the first game of our season! I feel like we were all really nervous before the game, especially me! I've never been that nervous before a game before, I guess it's because it's been so long since I last played and I was afraid I would get like a black out or something and completely forget everything about basketball (I mean I've played the sport for 10 years so I think that would be highly unlikely, but still). But we won and I think now that the first game is done with, we'll play even better in the future!

Talking some serious tactics before the game

Saturday, September 30, 2017

Girl, where do you think you're going?

Heeeyyyyyyy! 

I will start this post with Lady Gaga. There is definitely a little monster inside of me which was woken up when I watched Gaga's new documentary on Netflix, Five Foot Two. I didn't really listen to her new album when it came out (other than the singles) but now I definitely have added a few other songs from the album to my spotify playlist, more specifically "Joanne" and "Hey Girl". 


Other than listening to Gaga, we've had some guests over - on Thursday Andre's mom came to visit us, so we had dinner with her at Blanko. I think we were all really satisfied with the food, and the company as well of course! And she had sown some awesome curtains for our kitchen as well, tack Mia! And today my dad came for a quick visit. He also gave us literally one minutes heads up, so we had literally just gotten out of bed. Luckily that's no problem for us - family (and friends) are always welcome at our place! ❤




I've also been spending a lot of my time sitting in the bus, on my way to or from practice. Yesterday the sunset was super pretty, which made the experience a bit more exciting. I'm however not looking forward to it getting even colder and darker... Winter is coming you guys. Better enjoy fall as long as we can!

Monday, September 25, 2017

WAM & free food

I feel like I'm the worst at writing these "Hey again guys" intros so I'll just get to the main happenings of last week:

Last Wednesday me and André were invited to a dinner party organized by our university for new exchange students and home university students that have returned from their exchange. The event started with a short speech from our principle, after which we got something to eat and drink while we listened to some presentations from former exchange students. I was really pleasantly surprised by the whole evening - the food was really good and it was nice to meet exchange students who are studying at ÅA right now. The wine however was awful, but hey, at least it was free!


On Thursday I finally received my bachelor's degree papers! I guess it is a kind of milestone, but since it feels like forever ago that I actually wrote my bachelor's thesis (it's been almost two years...) and I'm already starting on my Pro Gradu, I didn't really do anything special to celebrate. Guess I'll have to go out with a bang when I graduate for good!

On Saturday me and André went and saw the Jacob Hashimoto art exhibition at Wäinö Aaltosen museo which we have been meaning to go and see for a while now. I wouldn't say I'm a huge expert in art but I definitely enjoy going to art galleries and museums from time to time, and I have to say that it has been a really long time since I last went to an art museum in my home town. It was very cheap too - only 4 euros if you are a student. Also, it's basically an Instagram gold mine. 






Trying to look as if I actually know a thing about art



On Sunday I got to see many of my friends for the first time in a long time when we gathered at Ella's for brunch. She is going away on exchange so it was kind of a farewell party, but we all agreed  that we see each other way too seldom nowadays. So we will try to get together more often, once every other month will not do anymore! In the evening I also met up with some of my classmates for a horror movie night. I'm actually taking a course in Horror literature and our lecturer has gathered a list of horror films he suggests we could watch on our spare time. The plan is to see as many of them as possible before the end of the course. By Halloween I'm hoping to have discovered some new favorites that I can share with you on the blog!


(Me when it's almost October and Halloween season)

Tuesday, September 19, 2017

September is treating me well

I have to say that overall, September has pretty great. I've been feeling happy and relaxed - basically stress free! This means I've had time for...

... hanging out with family and friends, or just chilling on the couch. I've also had time to focus on my thesis, and since it's basically the only thing I have to do this year, I'm feeling pretty confident about getting everything done in time. And even though I am an 'oldie' among the English students, I did get the chance to wear my overalls for the first time in a pretty long time.



... cooking! There have been lots of delicious homemade meals served at our table this month. Any ideas on what I should try next?


... basketball! Last Saturday we had a team sauna night, and I had so much fun. It was great to catch up with my old teammates but also get to know the new people on my team. Can't wait for the season to start!




... and fireworks! On Sunday we celebrated Turku day, and although we didn't participate in any of the activities organized around the city because we spent the day in Raisio with my family, we did manage to see the fireworks in the evening. 


Thursday, September 7, 2017

❤ right now

❤ Sherlock 

I know I'm like 7 years late on this show, but me and André recently started watching Sherlock and erhmegerdh it's so good. I remember always finding it odd that people actually thought Benedict Cumberbatch was hot, but now... I totally get it. 


❤ Susijengi

The Finnish national team in basketball! They're currently playing in the fiba eurobasket tournament and have been killing it with four wins and one very slight loss. And the games have been sooo nerve racking, I swear my pulse was higher when I watched the first game than what it was during the cycling class I attended earlier in the day. 

This dude tho


❤ Mr. Kate

Two things that I love: home renovating shows and Youtube. What do you get when you put those two together? My new obsession "Omg We're Coming Over'. Also for those of you who love Pinterest DIYs and catchy intro songs.



❤ Fall clothing

I've realized I actually don't like dressing in summer clothes. I really don't enjoy wearing shorts (not that I got to wear a lot of them this summer). I get sweaty so easily so cold and crisp fall weather is my best friend right now. So is my jeans jacket and my new high platform shoes. 


Monday, September 4, 2017

Syyskuu.September.

It's September and it definitely feels like it too! The wind feels colder and I've dug out my woolen socks from the drawer, the evenings are getting darker and the trees are starting to shed their leaves. But I don't mind, I like fall! There's nothing better than curling up in a blanket and watching some netflix, is there? Sweater weather for the win!

Sp what have I been up too for the last couple of weeks? Me and Andre payed a quick visit to Malax, and it was very short due to the fact that I had work, but luckily it seems like our schedules won't be as hectic as they usually are during this time, so we'll probably do another trip up before Christmas. 


Last weekend we also stayed over at my parents place and drove up to Mynämäki where my grandpa lives. He literally lives in the middle of the forest which is pretty magical, but probably quite frightening when it gets dark. Our dog Maya also managed to fall in a giant pit of mud while we where there, so the car ride home was a blast. 
The flying dog


Today was the first day of the new academic year which meant that after the introductory session me and André did some school supply shopping. Today I'm also returning to the field - the basketball field that is! I'm starting to train with my old team and I'm super excited. The one thing that has just made the excitement even bigger is that Finland is taking part in the Eurobasket tournament right now and the games have been super intense. 

Every fall I get a huge craving to eat porridge, and it usually lasts about 2 weeks//My new calendar and my newly pimped old notebook. Pineapples, gold and sparkles are the colors of the season ya'll!

Other than that I'm preparing to start writing my master's thesis - It feels like only yesterday I had my first day at Uni and now I practically have one year left. Now that's intense!

Thursday, August 24, 2017

What has been and what comes next

♡ SATURDAY: Had a pretty chill day at work, after which I attended Ansku's party. It was truly the end of an era, since we've had many legendary parties at her parents house throughout the year. We continued on to Saaristobaari, which was a bit of a let down. I've had a good time there before, but that night the music was odd and the crowd was reeaally young. Stopped by a greek food stand on my way home, the gyros pita tasted heavenly. I also found 40 euro on the ground, and since no one was around me, I picked it up. Me and André both agreed it must be good karma since he once lost a 50 euro bill in a club, and now he (or well, we) finally got it back!
Trying to take cute pictures but failing. hard.

♡ SUNDAY: Sunday dinner in Raisio with parents and grandparents. A delicious meal prepared by my father. Blueberry picking with my mom.


♡ MONDAY: Another day off from work, which was spent preparing for the academic year (aka. stressing). Leg day at the gym.

♡ TUESDAY: Lunch with Cristel. Back to work.

♡ WEDNESDAY: After work me and André finally went to have dinner at Storage, a restaurant which opened this summer and specializes in Street Food with a Finnish twist. The plates are quite small so we ordered several, and shared it all. My favorites were definitely the "corndog", the Finnish taco and the dessert which was a soft serve ice cream with cranberries and hot caramel - so delicious! I definitely recommend trying Storage!


Walking up our street

♡ TODAY: Work, stopped by the market square to buy some peas and later got an allergic reaction from those peas. It's a bummer, because I love peas. I'll probably still eat the rest though. Also took a 45 minute walk, and listened to some podcasts. 


♡ TOMORROW AND SO ON: The next two days will pretty much be spent at work, but after that I have three days off which means we've finally managed to fit in our visit to Ostrobothnia, we haven't been there since last Christmas so it's about time we went!

Monday, August 21, 2017

The past few days have been shocking and sad here in my home city of Turku. I will get to that later in this post.

I guess summer is officially over now that schools have started (not for us University students quite yet though) and as I mentioned before, my work hours are becoming fewer as well. That means that I've had a lot more time to hang out with family and friends. So last Saturday after work (and work was pretty exciting as well because I served none other than Redfoo from LMFAO! He was performing at a festival in town and stopped by our restaurant for some grub) I got a ride with Emppu and Paul to Ella's summer cottage which is locate in Kimito, about a 45 minute car ride from Turku. There we celebrated the end of summer with a crayfish party, which was so much fun! I've never actually been to a crayfish party before, but luckily my friends taught me how to peel and eat crayfish, so now I'm a pro. It was great hanging out with all of my friends, and there was lots to talk about too, which meant that I didn't go to bed 'til 6 in the morning. I took a 4 hour nap the next day, crayfish partying can be exhausting!





I also had a dog come over to my apartment last week, and she was so cute! My friend Julle was dog sitting so she came over with Hylsy, and she was adorable. I wasn't loving the white fur which was all over my apartment after she left, but it was totally worth it.


Now to the horrible event that happened in the center of Turku on Friday the 19th of August, just last week. I'm sure most of you reading this know all about it, but just after four in the afternoon, a man started stabbing people around the market square, leaving two dead and eight others injured. Since then we have learned that this was in fact a terrorist attack, committed by an 18-year-old asylum seeker. I was actually working at the time of the attack, and our restaurant is located just across the street from the market square, in plain sight of where the knife man committed his horrible crimes. I didn't actually see any of the attacks myself, I only started paying attention to what was going on outside when police cars and ambulances started arriving to the scene. Then someone came in to the bar next to our restaurant and said that somebody had been stabbed. At first I didn't think much of it, but then we started getting news that it wasn't just one person, it was several people. I was supposed to get off from work at 5, but at that point we did not know what was going on and since police had asked people to stay inside and avoid walking in the city center, I stayed at work for one more hour, texting friends and family and trying to figure out what was going on. We didn't know whether there was only one attacker or many, or if they had caught them. Rumors started spreading on social media that other shopping centers in and around Turku had been attacked as well (these reports were false and the shopping centers were closed as a precaution). Later we also found out that police had captured the suspect merely minutes after the attack began, and if it wasn't for brave bystanders, who started chasing the attacker and helped victims, the outcome of this tragedy could've been much worse. At six I got a ride from my friend Emppu home who was kind enough to come and pick me up from work. 

The last couple of days I have spent reading the news, talking to my friends and family and thinking a lot about what happened. Unfortunately we read about these types of attacks almost every day on the news, and you can't help but to feel sad for the state of the world, and sad for the victims. I wouldn't say that I could've never imagined it happening in my home city, but it did come as a big shock, knowing that these attacks happened just 100 meters away from me. Knowing that any one of my friends or family or just someone I know could've been there, because it's the square we walk through several times a week, if not daily. It's the square where my little brother takes his bus home when he gets off from school. It's the square where my friend went to buy strawberries just 5 minutes before the attack. It could have been any one of us, but it wasn't, and I'm so thankful for that.

I'm also thankful for the police, who did a tremendous job in capturing the attacker in such a short time. I'm thankful for the bystanders who risked their own lives by going after the attacker, and warming people about him. I'm thankful for all of those people who are willing to see past hate and revenge and try to spread love and support. I think our president Sauli Niinistö expressed it very well, when he spoke about the aftermath of these types of attacks, especially when it comes to questions about immigration and refugees. He said that Finland's strength and success is based on our ability to work together, and to give room to different opinions without putting blame on others. He reminded that we all have the freedom of speech, but that we are also responsible for the actions that our words lead to. Niinistö said that some are for and others are against immigration, which is understandable, but if we use our different opinions to build hate, it will only weaken our ability to reject evil.

My condolences go out to all of the victims and their families and friends.
I took this picture from my friends Instagram. It is the memorial place for the victims at the Market Square. The sign reads "Turussa ei ole paikkaa pelolle" which translates to "There is no place for fear in Turku" ❤